02.22.08
6 Steps To Find A Spouse
- Ask God for one.
- Work on yourself
- Go to the places you like
- Be honest, and look for a good heart
- Be accepting
- Do not sleep with them before marriage
Whatever goal you have, you need to first ask God for help.
Say this prayer: God Almighty, I am alone. I do not want to be alone. I need your help to find a Husband/Wife. Please bring a good person into my life that I can share my life with. Someone I can love and that will love me and marry me. In Jesus name Amen.
It does not have to be the exact prayer above. But pray it with a humble heart and God will help you.
Work on all aspects of your life. The more you work on yourself the more attractive you will be to a potential spouse.
Physical: Loose weight and exercise.
Emotional: Forgive the people who have hurt you in the past.
This will help clean out your emotional closet.
Spiritual: Read the Bible and pray. Get involved with your local church.
financial: Put away money. Tithe. Invest your money in appreciating assets like homes, stocks, bonds, rental property, businesses. Stop spending money on depreciating assets like cars, cloths, and jewelry.
Intellectual: Read a book. Take a class. Learn something new about the world.
If you like to dance, go to a night club. Not all people at night clubs are evil. What ever you like to do. Do it. God will send you someone wherever you are.
Whenever you meet a potential spouse, it is very hard to be yourself and be open. But you should be yourself and be honest because you want the non-God-chosen person to leave as quickly as possible. The one God chooses for you will not leave when they hear about your faults. In fact their reaction should be glad you told them the truth. This is the kind of heart you should be looking for and a good test.
Same thing on the flip side. When you meet a person,
you really need to ask yourself what is important. Is weight important? Is height? Is it financial status? Experience has shown that a forgiving person and one that is willing to learn about God, is all you need to have a long term successful marriage.
Sleeping with people before marriage is dangerous to your health.
It gives you skeletons. It give you unrealistic expectations in your marriage. You may get a disease that is contagious or not curable. Other than pleasure, there is no good reason to have sex before marriage. If God has sent this person, they will wait for you. This will test their love for you. You have the rest of your marriage to have sexual pleasure without the guilt or diseases.